So, you’re on the search for love! With over 75 million active users on Tinder, the good news is that the numbers show that there are plenty of other singles just like you also looking for love. However, getting to happily ever after can be an arduous process. It’s often a numbers game and a series of trial and error— also known as dreaded “first dates.” As much as you might dread them, fiirst dates can be your best friend or your worst nightmare—it all depends on how you handle them.
Much like a job interview, a first date is not only an opportunity to demonstrate what you have to offer but also to see what the other person brings to the table. And while there are plenty of things you can do to make a first date go well, there is an even longer list of things that you should not do.
To help you navigate the world of love and find your special someone, here are 3 things you should never do on a date. (Like, ever.)
Not Ask Your Date’s Opinion on the Location
Regardless of how many romantic films you may have seen where the man famously tells a woman to meet him at a certain location at a certain time— this is 2023. Women and men are equals, and each person attending the date should have a say in where you’ll go.
Whether you choose to go to a bar or take a walk in the park, make sure that both of you agree that it’s a good location for meeting up.
Not Asking Questions
We get it, you’re nervous! First dates come with a lot of pressure. But don’t let your nervousness translate into self-absorption. Avoid rambling endlessly about yourself without pausing to ask questions. It’s important to find a balance between sharing information about yourself while also showing interest in the other person.
At the same time, don’t be overly pushy or imposing. Asking too many personal questions too quickly can rub some people the wrong way. Just go with the natural flow of exchanging questions and answers, and you should be fine.
Staring at Your Phone
Congratulations on your 26,000 Instagram followers, but this isn’t the moment to engage on social media. You heard us right— it’s not the moment to answer your mom’s texts or check your Twitter feed. Put your phone away and keep it in your pocket.
Unless you have kids at home with a babysitter, there is no good reason for you to be looking at your phone while you’re on a first date. Stay totally engaged in conversation and focus on building a connection with them—not your phone.
Remember, first dates don’t have to be a nightmare if you play your cards right. By being yourself and avoiding these no-nos, you’ll be on the path to finding the love of your life in no time!